This is a tough one to write for me. It’s raw. It’s real. And it’s happening everywhere.
This is something you may even do yourself without even thinking. At first you read people’s posts and think what a lovely thing to write, how thoughtful, how empathetic. Then it gets you.
What I’m talking about is the people that post supporting mental health charities. The ones that tell you that lockdown has been tough for so many people, and that there are so many people struggling with day to day life right now. They then go on to remind you to stay in touch with your loved ones. Keep in contact with those that you know are struggling and the ones that aren’t. Remember a smiley person isn’t always a happy person etc etc.
These are lovely posts to read, but if you are someone who isn’t contacting family, texting loved ones, keeping in touch with friends… please do not post this. It makes your loved ones feel like nothing. Literally nothing. Right now, as we speak my ‘family’ are posting these posts and it hurts like hell as I haven’t heard from any of them. I have tried to keep in touch but get shot down pretty much every attempt I made. Even before lockdown the only time we’d see each other was if I made the effort to go to them. I started to wonder if they’d ever make the effort themselves… they didn’t. I sent cards, presents everything…. got nothing back. I didn’t do it for the return but when you consistently get nothing back emotionally or physically we all get to the stage of giving up.
So, what I’m trying to remind you all, is if you post these posts, well done, it’s needed, but please make sure you are doing the same as your post is telling people to do.
The message reads
The message reads
“Stay in touch with your loved ones”
“Mental illness is rising”
“Don’t suffer alone once”.
Then people add statuses
“Don’t forget those you care for too”
But why do you say this?
When I never hear from you.
The message also reads
“This charity needs you,”
“To help answer all the calls”
“From the sad and lonely too”.
Their message says
“Keep in touch with those struggling”
Even those who hide away,
They need to feel that they belong.
So, if you add a status,
or tell the world you care
Please do it, ring your family
And show them that you’re there.
Don’t say these things or write them
If you’re not concerned at all,
Because all your loved ones seeing that
Will feel less than nothing at all.
They’ll notice you’ve not contacted them,
They’ll feel so hurt and sad,
That you’ve told the world you’re there for them
But ignored the ones you had.
The message reads- “Be kind to all”
Please hear this loud and clear
This message is for ALL of us
Be with loved ones when you shed that tear.